Yeah, you read that right. I’m a fraud. A fake. A poseur. It’s hard for me to admit, but like I say on my JUST WHO IS THIS KELLY WOMAN? page, I reserve the right to modify it as soon as I figure out who I really am. And friends, today is a dark, dark day in the realm of self-awareness.
So, here it goes.
Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day was January 27th this year, and I missed it. Major fail for the woman who counts bubble wrap as the best mindless stress reliever ever (and an unintentional rescued wire fox terrier torture tool. Sorry Maisy! Mommy loves you, really).
When I learned I’d missed my best bubble buddy’s big day, I hopped on over to Wikipedia to see who or what else I may be ignoring. You know how many other unofficial observance days there are each year? A LOT. And this list doesn’t include all of them—they dissed my bubble wrap so now I call into question its validity (the list, not the bubble wrap).
Anyway, these are the annual days when we’re supposed to take a moment to conduct a ritual of appreciation in honor or celebration of a person or thing, for instance hobbits, moles or monkeys. And of course there are the official holidays, like the most recent one on March 17th—Submarine Day.
You know what this little oversight taught me? I suck at appreciating people. I’m not talking about saying thank you—I do that 99% of the time and mean it every time. No, I mean I’m a classic “take it for granted” gal. I won’t subject you to some rambling rationale for why I am the way I am. It’s a character flaw and not something I’m proud of.
For a while I worried I was the kind of person Paula Deen described herself as during her Today Show interview with Matt Lauer last summer: “I is what I is and I’m not changing.” But then a generous person granted me a second chance, although I’m sure others questioned whether I deserved it or not, including the grantor…and me. In that moment of human grace, a change took place in me—I stopped making it all about me, all the time.
I may be “what I is,” but I am capable of change.
But just as I say that, I have to say this: appreciating people also makes me feel good. And I got the facts to back that s**t up.
Here’s a video describing what scientists discovered about how much happiness you can milk from appreciation and gratitude. Please take the time to watch it…you won’t regret it, promise (especially around the 4:25 mark).
Bottom line take-away: You’ll get the most happiness juice if you physically milk the appreciation/gratitude cow. Jotting your thoughts down about the people you appreciate will give you a tweak. But you’ll get an extra jolt of happy if you open your mouth and tell them. And the best news? If you’re having a crappy day, doing this will give you the biggest kick in your happy pants.
So try it. Make it your mission every day, especially on the days you’re feeling the least grateful, to tell one person how much he or she means to you and how your life wouldn’t be the same without him or her. And see how damn good it makes them, and you, feel.
So how about it? Who don’t you appreciate as much as you should? Tell me about that person and why you appreciate him/her, and then tell them. What’s the one thing about you that you wished others appreciated more? Share your thoughts…I’m listening.