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Non-Advice For My Daughter


I’ve seen a bunch of blog posts and articles over the past few months from parents giving advice to their children of various ages. The posts are usually insightful, witty and full of lots of good bits of “do as I say, not as I do—or did.” In other words, they’re well-meaning…and flavored with a pinch of futility.

Why futility? Because the authors seem to remember that when they were younger, they too had been on the receiving end of similar “I know better than you” platitudes.

And they didn’t listen to a word of them.

So, my darling daughter, instead of dropping my gunny sack of guidance at your feet, I want to explain why I’m going to pass on this particular parental obligation.

Advice, as you know, is “guidance or recommendations concerning prudent future action, typically given by someone regarded as knowledgeable or authoritative,” according to the dictionary definition.

In other words, advice is lessons older people share with you (after learning them on their own the hard way) because they don’t want you to make the same mistakes they did. Remember all the great advice you got in your Coming of Age program at our church? Yeah, that. That’s what I’m talking about.

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How A Word-Lover Transformed Into a Math-Fan

This probably goes without saying because I’m a writer and all, but I hate math.

I remember taking, or attempting to take, one particular algebra test in high school: My brain seized up like melted chocolate when water hits it.

The same thing happened when my daughter asked me for help with her math homework during her first year of middle school. I looked at the problems and read the instructions.

Then my brain went to its happy place while the rest of me sat spacing off at her math book.

Yeah, I said middle school. Stop your laughing.

Crystal Ponit recently published a post on her blog Dirty Lil’ where she talked about finally glimpsing the light at the end of her parenting tunnel only to see it snuffed out by new babies later in her life. Her refrain:

“I’ll never have an empty nest.”

Her post, or rather the reality of her situation, scared the shit out of me.

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